Change your definition of beauty and you change your world.

Okay, lets face it..When we meet someone new a first impression is first about looks; only later do things such as personality, brains & character start to take on meaning. No doubt some people are blessed to have adorable physical features and there's nothing wrong to   appreciate them, afterall 'Beauty should always be appreciated.' But then, there's other side-

-Why do people consider only having light skin as beautiful? Why not dark!!                              

-Why do we perceive people with attractive faces to have all positive traits??                              

-Why there is always a comparision between the one who looks fair & the one who don't?       

-Why India's marriage market demands fair skinned brides?                                                           

Well, for most of them the answer to these questions will be simply because such people are attractive, fair & beautiful.. That's it? Are these things really all that matters.!!!

  
 We hate each other for the stupidest reasons.We hate people of different skin colour, feminists, anti-feminists, vegans, meat eaters, the rich, the poor, fat people, skinny people..Isn't it tiring to hate so much? Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should like everyone. I think it's impossible to like absolutely everyone. However, the reason for your dislike should not be something that the person has no control over(like skin color) or a personal choice that doesn't harm anyone else(like veganism)

      Now let me put light on some of the facts which will change your perspective on beauty.

•  Do not define yourself by the way you look: Nandita Das.

                              
 Actor and Director, Nandita Das, has been very outspoken about skin colour bias. In May, Das became the face of the Dark is Beautiful campaign, launched in 2009 by activist group Women of Worth to celebrate “beauty beyond colour”.Das explains that her parents nurtured her many talents without ever making a point of commenting on her skin tone, which meant that she grew up free from the obsession with fairness that torments many Indian women.However, as soon as she became a rising star in her country’s film industry, she soon realized that due to her dark complexion she was expected to play lower caste roles or asked to “lighten her skin slightly” so that she could play an upper class role.

In modern day India, colonialist prejudice still underpins notions of beauty and whiteness is associated with wealth and better opportunities.       

                                                                                 “Do not define yourself by the way you look. If you do, people around you will also do the same. We must not take given attributes so seriously because we cannot do anything about our skin colour or nationality. One should not take these things seriously beyond a point,” she said.

• I Photographed Women From 37 Countries To Show That Beauty Is Everywhere: Mihaela Noroc.

 After travelling to 37 countries with very limited funds,Noroc photographed hundreds of women on all the different continents,hoping to give people a better view as to how beauty is perceived across cultural bounders. Beauty is also about the way a person thinks,the way they talk,and the way they interact with others.For a better,more realistic view on beauty around the globe,check out photographer Mihaela Noroc's series called "The Atlas Of Beauty"

                      

Tibetan Plateau, China Mihaela Noroc

Colombian woman in Ecuador Mihaela Noroc

Ethiopia Mihaela Noroc

Romania Mihaela Noroc


"Now I can say that beauty is everywhere,and it's no a matter of cosmetics or sizes but more about                   BeingYourself,"Noroc said about her project..                                

Here comes the most inspiring one..

• Bullies Called Her "World's Ugliest Woman"..She's Now Inspiring Millions!        

Well, everyone knows Lizzie Velasquez..Bullies Called Her "World's Ugliest Woman." She was born with a rare disease that makes her blind in one eye and prevents her from gaining weight-but that doesn't stop her from being positive.

                             
  When Lizzie was in high school she found a video of herself on Youtube posted by a stranger. The video was eight seconds long and titled “World’s Ugliest Woman.” There was nothing else. The video had over 4 million views and hundreds of negative comments.

One of the commenters said her parents should have aborted her, another said she should just kill herself. Friends.."Think, think about that. If people did – if people told you that, strangers told you this.!!! But she didn't let all these bullshit to stop her from doing what she wanted.
Read what was her inspiring response after all these..

I kind of started realizing that my life is in my hands. I could either choose to make this really good or I can choose to make this really bad. I could either be grateful and open my eyes and realize the things that I do have and make those the things that define me. I can’t see out of one eye, but I can see out of the other. I might get sick a lot, but I have really nice hair.”

“I started realizing, am I  going to let the people who called me a monster, define me. Am I going to let the people who said, kill it with fire, define me?! No. I’m going to let my goals and my success and my accomplishments be the things that define me, not my outer appearance, not the fact that I’m visually impaired, not the fact that I have this syndrome that nobody knows what it is.

So I told myself I’m going work my butt off and do whatever I could to make myself better, because in my mind, the best way that I could get back at all those people who made fun of me, who teased me, who called me ugly, who called me a monster, was to make myself better and to show them you know what, tell me those negative things, I’m going to turn them around and I’m going to use them as a ladder to climb up to my goals. That’s what I did.”

                            

“I told myself I wanted to be a motivational speaker, I want to write a book, graduate college, have my own family, my own career. Eight years later, I’m standing in front of you still doing motivational speaking. First thing I accomplished is I wanted to write a book. In a couple of weeks I will be submitting the manuscript for my third book.

I worked my butt off. I used the people who were telling me that I couldn’t do this – to motivate me. I used their negativity to light my fire to keep going, use that, use that, use that negativity that you have in your life to make yourself better, because I guarantee you, guarantee you, you will win.

Now I want to end with asking you again, I want you to leave here and ask yourself, what defines you? But remember brave starts here.Thank you!!
                               

Since then? Well, her bullies are — as they say — eating crow.Be careful who you bully, they just might become an absolute shining star!
 My purpose for including this story is to make people who think beauty is everything realise that NO,it's not!! Grow up man-is this article not enough for you to change your mindset!! And also for all those who think that they don't look good enough-well, it's time to change your opinion about yourself and get inspired, because the above story says it all.
   

Friends, do not define people by something as shallow as looks. Define them by their heart, their strength, their compassion, their fire..When did being fair, tall and thin become more important than being compassionate, emphatic and kind? We are so much more than our faces and bodies. It makes one think, if our eyes saw souls instead of faces and bodies, how different our ideals of beauty would be?