If You Worry A Lot, You Need to Read This.

'Worry.' I can write a whole book on this topic with all the science and psychology behind our worries. But I'll try to make this article short and to the point. Because, yeah..my readers have a lot of things to worry about. 

I think the most common and destructive habits of the people living in this world must be the habit of worrying. We keep hearing from people that 90% of what we worry about never actually happen. Despite this truth we tend to remain the same. I think it's difficult to control our thoughts, specially when it comes from the negative side. We spend most of our time thinking about the negative outcomes rather than the positive ones.

Think about this for a moment- You wake up every morning, take your bath, have your breakfast and then proceed for your job or college or class or whatever it might be. On your way to your destination there are some days when it's too hot, days when it's raining heavily and days when it's too cold. How do you respond during such times? Do you just carry on with your stuff or do you go on worrying and stressing about the climatic conditions every single day? For most of us the answer is definitely the former one. Because we know there is NOTHING we can do to change the atmosphere as it's natural. All we can do is to simply adapt and protect ourselves from the earth's nature.

This is Exactly the same with our worries. There are things which cannot be controlled and changed. Worrying and cribbing won't change anything. It will only stop you from enjoying the present. 

What Percent of your Worries Come True??

99% of the things you think will happen, never happen! There are things, I would rather say plenty of things I predicted never came true, both good and bad. I was very sure that I would be a Psychologist one day, which certainly never turned into reality. Similarly, I never imagined myself to be a teacher and a blogger .But here I am, writing articles and trying to inspire people across the globe. 

When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which never happened. - Winston Churchill.

When you're confronted with any problematic situations in your life simply ask yourself these two questions:

1. Would worrying help?? The only answer one can make, I think, is NO. So what's the point distressing!?
2. Is there anything that you can do to change the situation?? If you get a yes as an answer and if a problem is fixable then there is no need to worry. If it's no, then there is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.

You see, in both the cases there is no place for 'worry.'

Why we Worry??

We worry out of the fear of Future. Most of our worries steam from questioning the unknown-- what if??

• What if he/she rejected me?
• What if I lose my job? How am I going to pay my bills?
• What if I cannot come up to my parents or society's expectations?
• What if I die tomorrow?

We start visualizing it's consequences :

• Am probably gonna die single if he/she rejected me. 
• I would starve if I lose my job. . . producing results which are quite disturbing and frustrating. It all started with just one imaginary thought and ended up deteriorating your health and your peace of mind. 

However, in some cases worry is good for you. For example- If you don't worry about being hit by a car while driving, you might not drive safely with all your attention on driving. If you don't worry about being sick, you might not take care of your health. That being said doesn't mean that you should worry and keep worrying. Try to understand the difference between Concern and Worry. Concern encourages you to take action; whereas Worry is of no good. Some concerns are real, but many are unnecessary.

We suffer more often in imagination than in reality- Seneca

It's certainly easy to sit and write an article conveying people to stop stressing about your career, your future, your bank balance, your family or whatever you're stressing about right now. But difficult to get rid of this destructive habit. You may read this article, feel motivated and may take a vow to never worry ever. Be honest, how long do your motivation make you forget about your worries? 5 minutes, one hour, a day or a week? As soon as you get back to the reality of your life- worry and stress bang you in the face. With the competitive world out there, struggling to finish your deadline. . it's hard not to worry. 

But friends, Worry is no joke. The more you worry and stress about, the more your body suffers.

• High blood pressure
•  Anxiety
• Panic attacks
• Sleep problems
• Cardio-Vascular problems
• Headaches or Migraines are the numerous health problems caused by Stress. You read that right. Worry certainly is the reason behind many of our health issues. You can refer to Stress related health problems.

But Worry Not!  Here are some ways to deal with worrying. You can also watch Ted Talks videos. These videos are bound to help you to get away from your worries. And whenever you start with your worry habit, just slow down your thoughts. Remember that health is always more important than anything else in this entire world. 

Now go. . . Explore, follow your passion, hang out with your friends, eat, drink, sleep. Do whatever you want to, BUT- Without Any Worry!